I bet I get some hate mail for this one.
Back in the day, way before the wifey and I jumped the broom – that means “got hitched,” for those not up on their African-American traditions – she hit me with an interesting question.
She asked, “What would you say if I proposed to you?”
That caught a playa off guard. But y’all know me, I kept it real.
I replied, “I’d say yes – but don’t do that.”
Before my feminist friends start throwing virtual tomatoes at your boy, hear me out. At that point in our relationship, it was a lock that we would be married eventually. But I’ll be honest with you, popping the question was something that I wanted to do. I didn’t want her to beat me to it.
Is it a manhood thing? Probably.
It makes me wonder what was on David Otunga’s mind when he got a recent gift from his fiancee, Jennifer Hudson. Who is David Otunga? Y’all remember Punk from I Love New York.
Check this out, from music-news.com:
Jennifer Hudson gave her fiancé a five-carat custom-made diamond ring for his birthday. A friend said: “Jennifer wanted to give him something really special when she asked David to marry her. It was very sentimental and romantic. They are really in love.” The pair were engaged in September, but Jennifer wanted to return the proposal. The designer calls the ring “masculine, yet has a lot of sparkle”.
She should have bought Punk some shirts that fit. Look at that photo, that fabric is struggling.
Anyway, poor Punk has had to endure a lot of teasing about his woman buying him stuff he probably can’t afford. I remember hearing once that he was a big-shot lawyer (or so he said) but I’m sure he ain’t making that “Dreamgirls” money. And you know those Vh1 checks have dried up like New York’s scalp.
Look, if the wifey wanted to buy me a five-carat ring, it’s ALL GOOD. I’m certainly not one of those guys who wants his woman at home baking biscuits. In this economy, we both need to be chasin’ paper any way we can. However, there is just something in many men, myself included, that wants me to be a provider. I think it’s that same thing that made me hesitate to allow the wifey to propose to me.
I wonder if it’s something Punk struggles with. I know he struggles putting that shirt on.
Do you think men are justified in wanting to be the provider? Or should they step aside and let the ladies do their thing?