Contributed by: Karie
This weekend, I found myself giving relationship advice to one of my best gal pals. The irony of the situation is that I'm usually "very single" and she has a surplus of relationships. I've learned that life's lessons on love do not have numeric quantifiers; instead, I've gleaned these lessons through observation and experience. I am not an expert on men, but here are a few of the basic lessons:
- Don't be quick to give "boyfriend" status. The purpose of dating or "hanging out" is to get to know each other. In today's world, many mistake "boyfriend" status as a green light for physical intimacy.
- Listen. It's important to listen to the ideas and volitions of your potential mate.
- Check for consistency. Days and months later, check to see if his actions match the ideals and principles he first shared with you. If these things do not match, RUN!
- Ignore text messages. If text messaging is the primary mode of major conversation, there's a reason why he can't pick up a phone (i.e., he has a wife or girlfriend).
- Ignore his call…if he's married or in another relationship. Better yet, save his number as "Do not answer" to help resist temptation.
- Don't force a relationship. Trust your instincts. If you discover that your goals and the goals of your potential mate do not blend, don't force fit a relationship. The time and energy spent forcing a relationship could be put into executing your life’s dreams.
- Stand up for yourself. Be leery about a man who cannot apologize for hurting you emotionally.
- Remember the flying rule -- Put your air mask on first, before helping your mate. Take care of your needs before catering to the needs of your mate.
- Have faith that "the one" is out there. Enjoy your life and fulfill your dreams until he comes along.
About the contributor
Karie (pronounced like Marie with a “K) is new to the blogging world. She is a single, 20-something living in the DC Metropolitan area. Professionally, she is a technical writer. Outside of the office, she enjoys graphic design, creative writing, reading, and tennis. Please contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.