Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more. They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing all of us….
“My girl is Black and White. I guess the half White in her is where she still cooks and do all the sh*t that I say, so we make it. She just takes care of me and I like that. She don’t be begging and I don’t gotta buy her all this crazy a** sh*t…White women treat they man like a king and Black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that sh*t. Black women need to stand by their man more. Don’t always put the pressure of if I’m f*cking with you, you gotta buy me this and that.
Before you write this off as simple-minded musings from a C-list rapper, you have to admit that there are valid points made here.
*dodges a flying stiletto aimed at my head*
Growing up, I met and even dated quite a few women with the mentality Slim points out. Like the time I was buying dinner for a date and the woman ordered half the menu just so she could take half the food home and stock her fridge. Or the woman who slept around for discounts at the gas station. Or the girl in 8th grade who only dated college students because they had cars and jobs.
But notice I said “women” and not “black women.” I never attributed those traits solely to African-American women. Yeah Slim, there are plenty of shady sisters out there, but it’s not like evil is isolated in the black race. I have dated women of many different ethnic backgrounds and sadly, yeah, many were like the ones described above. The wifey still doesn’t understand why I had so few girlfriends in life – because I refused to settle for a woman who wants to sit back and have things handed to her.
I think it’s stupid to complain about how about how women are no good, then turn around and date ’em. Just wait and find a decent woman, like I did. Being a good person has nothing to do with skin color.
Oh, and brothers aren’t off the hook. Slim can piss and moan about how horrible black women are but I know some dudes who are just as bad. I have black, white and Asian male friends, despite being nearly 30 years old, whose days consist of hanging out on the corner, playing video games and downloading movies all day, and complaining that they can’t find a job (sorry, fellas). Is it fair when women say, “there are no good black men?” Not when lameness comes in all colors of the rainbow.
It bothers me that it’s 2010 and we’re still fussing about skin tone. Don’t blame your mate’s incompetence on their ethnicity. Stop dating scrubs and just find a good person, period.
Playa, if I wasn’t already married I know the perfect woman for me. Smart, funny, athletic, and is willing to duke it out for her man till the bitter end:
Never accuse me of being racist.
Slim Thug’s comments are offensive to black and white women alike. Sure, there are women out there who want their men to wait on them hand and foot and spend their whole paychecks on them, but those women, as you said, come in all colors. He’s also implying that white women have no backbone saying that they do what they’re told and behave like good little girls. Yes, a woman should cook for her man. But a man should cook for his woman too. Or should help with the laundry or clean the bathrooms, or something. Relationships are partnerships, meaning each person should do his or her part in all arenas of the relationship. And no woman, or man, should be a doormat in a relationship. Furthermore, Slim Thug’s comments are even insulting to black men. He’s supporting the stereotype that most black men are not successful and says women who want a black man need to lower their standards. Really?! His girlfriend may have lowered her standards for him, but my man surpassed anything I could have imagined.
I was about to rant, but Javacia pretty much said what I was thinking. What pisses me off the most about his comments is the implication that any woman should lower her standards.
Yeah, if I lowered my standards, I’d have lots of boyfriends. But they wouldn’t make me happy.
It sounds like Slim thug enjoys being a dick.
This is hilarious (in a bad way). So basically black women should lower their standards in order to be happy??? And this Guy has millions of dollars ( or thousands considering he is a c list rapper lol) to talk to the masses through music. Quite disturbing.